The Power of Desire

At the recommendation of someone I greatly admire, I finally picked up a copy of Napoleon Hills' complete text of 'Think and Grow Rich'.  Certainly, I had heard, or read, snippets of it in the past, had read numerous authors referencing it, but it had never moved from my 'to be read' list.  Until now.

I have to admit that already the first chapter has given me pause to think.  The topic?  Desire.  Not a word that we typically apply to our lives as a whole.  We might stop to question what we 'want' in and from our lives, what we 'need' to get by and, perhaps, might even occasionally give voice to our dreams.

But, somehow, desire takes elements of all of these, incorporates them and elevates them.  Desire is stronger than just want or need.  It isn't as transient.  Desire is not fleeting.  It speaks to a consistency and commitment to thought and action belied by both want and need, which are more situationally based. 

Additionally, our desires are more concrete than our dreams.  Dreams, by their very nature, are less substantial, more corporeal, making them less tangible and therefore likely unattainable.  Desire is more earthy though. It has a visceral component to it that provides an anchor for those dreams. It is more concrete, more substantial and, therefore, achievable.

It is the strength of our desire for a 'thing' that gives us the drive to achieve and succeed.  However, admonitions to be 'practical', to be 'grounded', to be 'realistic and logical' in planning our lives and careers has led us to suppress our DESIRE, such that we are left doing, but not feeling.

It's hard to feel passionate about the work we do and the contributions we make when they lack any connection to our deepest desires.  I am beginning to believe that it is the reconnection to our desires that is the catalyst for remarkable change to occur.  Gaining clarity over our desires not only provides us with the destination, but it fuels the trip.  Without it?  We're likely to get caught up in doing and being and going something/somewhere less meaningful or fulfilling.  We're living.  We may even be 'successful' by other people's standards, but at what cost to us?

How much more excititng and energizing to be engaging in activities that feed and fulfill our desire, that move us toward our hidden, and all too often, unspoken dreams?  If this stirs in you a spark of wanting, a 'desire' for more, then I invite you to begin to reconnect with your desires and passions.

Exercise:  (I somehow always manage to work some kind of homework in, don't I?)  You've spent years, perhaps even decades, in stifling and burying your desires.  Don't expect them to reveal themselves to you overnight.  Though...  certainly be open to it should it happen that way for you!

• Consider - if there was enough money in whatever you chose to be or do...
• What would you be...
• What would you do...
• ... and... most importantly...why?
• Explore - how you felt as you answered the above questions.  What does it reveal to you about your desires?  Is there a way to begin integrating more of it into your life right now, no matter how small?  If yes...  then get started and do it!

Remember, no more effort is required to aim high in life, to demand abundance and prosperity, than is required to accept misery and poverty    

                                                                                                      Napoleon Hill

Spring Clean Your Career Clutter!

Just as we tend to accumulate too much extraneous 'stuff' around the house, our careers can also become cluttered.  Over the years we tend to accumulate a lot of habits, processes, ideas and people that no longer serve us in moving along our chosen career path.  Sometimes, we have collected so much of this 'stuff' that our path becomes obscured.  If you've seen the show 'Hoarders', or the others like it, you now have a visual representation of what you may be having to wade through while trying to progress at work. 

Use the following points to help you get rid of that clutter, clear out the waste and to redefine your career path!

1.  Dust off that career plan that you made decades ago.  Take a look at where you are, both in terms of your career and life.  Where would you like your life to take you over the next 5 or 10 years and what role can/should your career play in fulfilling this?  Your career is not an isolated element in your life - it is an integral part of it.  Therefore, it should be viewed from within a whole-life perspective.  Once you have that bigger vision of what you want for yourself, break it down to consider what you can do this year to move it forward.  Each year you should repeat this exercise, reviewing what you accomplished the year before and determining what new steps need to be taken in the upcoming year to build on that past year's momentum. 

2.  Using the above plan, consider...are you spending your time on the activities that matter, or have you gotten bogged down in completing a lot of busy-making tasks?  You know... those activities that seem to keep you hustling and that fill your day, but do nothing to move you or your key objectives forward.  If so... start tossing!  This may require a more disciplined approach to the use of the word 'no' than you've been exercising up until now.  Too many of us get caught up in the cycle of 'busy-ness' without really qualifying the value of the activities we are engaged in.  For others, it is more an issue of getting caught up in doing for others and finding little to no time left over to doing anything for ourselves.  To get ahead we need to start thinking more strategically.  Your time is limited.  Therefore, you need to be spending 80% of your time on the 20% of the activities that net you the biggest results. 

To give you some perspective, try this exercise to see where you are at with your activities.  Take out a piece of paper and list your current 'to-do's'.  List them all!  Beside each I want you to indicate two things.  First, whether this is something that you are completing on behalf of yourself, or someone else, and then rank its relative importance (on a scale of 1-10) on you and your career. 

Take a look first at any items that you are doing for someone other than yourself and that have a neglible impact on your career progression.  These are the tasks that you need to get rid of and say No to in future.  You're likely engaged in them to be 'nice' to the other person, but if they are not providing you with enough of a positive impact, then you need to let them go.  Do it nicely, but learn to say no.

3.  Speaking of others... take a close look at those people that are in your 'career-sphere' and consider the purpose that they serve, to you both you and your career.  Are they a mentor?  Are they a coach?  Are they a contact or conduit to something more?  If they only provide criticism and negative feedback, leaving you second guessing yourself, it's time for a change!  Surround yourself with those that are going to challenge you in positive directions, who believe in you and genuinely want you to succeed.

For those of you familiar with my book It's Time Now, the Board of Directors exercise will serve you well here.  For those of you that aren't (shame on you!), create a list of the people that you are impacted by within the framework of your job and career, whether regularly or infrequently.  Consider what their degree of influence is over you (your thinking and decisions) and whether that influence is predominantly positive or negative in nature.  Review the list and strategically consider reducing or eliminating the role that anyone plays in your thinking that is more negative than positive in their outlook or influence.

The flip side of this is to examine who is missing from your list.  Do you need someone to mentor and coach you in developing certain skills?  Do you need a champion at work to help market you?  Do you need new sounding boards for your ideas?  Consider what gaps need to be filled to help you move forward and start filling those vacancies!

4.  Assess your Barriers.  Who, or what, is standing in your way, slowing down your forward movement?  Maybe you're missing a skill or some training, maybe you're lacking some information on options, maybe you have a boss that is holding you back to further themselves more.  Whatever the barriers are... list them out, providing details about the nature of the barrier and its impact on you and your career.  Identifying the barrier is, of course, only the first step.  Now you need to come up with an action plan of how to work through or around it.

Don't just take 'no' or 'can't be done' or 'you aren't', 'you haven't' for an answer.  What do you need to do to reduce or eliminate that barrier?  Often, clients will define the action needed and realize it's not as insurmountable as they envisioned.  If we only focus on the fact that there is roadblock, then we will sit down and bemoan the fact that we're blocked.  Defining the possible ways to overcome that barrier though defines a course of action you can take to overcome it.  Think the whole thing is overwhelming?  Then identify one small step that moves you forward.  Don't worry about overcoming the barrier in one hurdle if that is too big or intimidating.  Take one step.  You will be amazed at how just a single step forward can create the momentum you've been looking for.

5.  Freshen up your impact.  Spring is a great time for this exercise because you may already be scrutinizing yourself a little more closely in the mirror, thinking of the shorts (or bathing suit) to soon come!  Consider what your physical impression is and whether it is projecting the career message of your choice.  What shifts, changes or tweaks are needed to tighten your look, to deliver a stronger, more favourable, impression of You, to your audience.

• Clothes too tight?  Buy the right size, set up a workout schedule or... do both!
• Time for a more updated haircut, pair of glasses, cleaner teeth or...?
• Need a wardrobe overhaul to add a more updated edge?
• Do your presentation or vocal skills need some help to strengthen your impression?

5 key steps, but I know that they are by no means easy ones.  What you will find though, is that once you have gone through these steps once, your annual reviews and planning updates will be easier, if only because you only have a year to have built up clutter, not your life to date!  Getting rid of the 'stuff' we've collected can be an emotionally challenging exercise.  However, it is nothing compared to the emotions that keeping all of the clutter inour lives puts us through each day.  Really challenge yourself to throw one thing away.  Just one.  Something that doesn't work for you anymore, a habit that is holding you back.  Once you've done this...  take a deep breath, pat yourself on the back and see if tossing that second item isn't just a little bit easier!