Similarly, merely identifying a behaviour we want to start leaves our brain scrambling to make room for that new behaviour. It will therefore look to eliminate an existing behaviour to clear that room. However, our brain doesn't typically make judgments on 'good' versus 'bad' and may therefore replace an existing good behaviour with your desired new habit, resulting in a break-even proposition before you even get started.
The premise of my last book, Stop This, Start That, was to give you 365 different success tips that highlighted what behaviours to stop engaging in, and what behaviours to replace them with. Clean and simple. Although 365 ideas may seem like more than enough to keep you busy for a lifetime, if not the better part of a year, I find that I am often in conversation with clients where additional tips and ideas surface. This blog post grew from one such conversation.
There are numerous articles, books and videos that direct you to dream as big as possible, to envision everything that you would like to have and attract into your life. Unfortunately though, they often don't provide further instruction, leaving you with the belief that creating a vision board or replaying a dream over and over is enough to create it as a reality.
I am a firm believer in opening yourself to possibilities and to creating a vision for yourself of where those possibilities can take you, but dreaming on its own is not enough. A dream without action will lead to disappointment and regret. You can't continue to replay the same dream over and over, without taking any action to make it happen, and expect it to manifest. Dreams need help to come to fruition.
In which case, if you have something that you have longed for, wished for, dreamed for, that has yet to come true for you, it is time to Stop Dreaming and time to Start Scheming. You need to sit down and develop a plan of action for making that dream a reality.
- What do you need to make this dream happen? Are there specific skills you need? Financing? Contacts? Do you need more information, education or direction?
- Who could you talk to, what book could you read, what course could you take?
- What would be the first step you could take toward turning your dream into a reality? What's the second, the third, the fourth?
- What obstacles exist preventing you from taking action? How could you circumvent them?