As children we are full of questions; ongoing, ever-ending questions. There is no thought about whether the question is good or bad, smart or insightful, interesting or thought-provoking, worthwhile or boring. It was simply enough that we didn't know something and wanted to. As we grew though, we started to become more self-conscious about what our questions might say about us to others. We didn't want others to know that we didn't know something, that we didn't understand. We became worried about what others might think of us and we started to filter our questions.
As adults, we ask fewer questions. We try to find more information out on our own than simply asking someone to share their insights and knowledge. Typically because we don't want to look dumb. There's a risk in asking and so, we don't.
Asking fewer questions though means that not only do we often fail to take in all of the information that we want and need, it also means that we tend to lose our questioning skills. We ask fewer questions, often of a poorer quality. We stop refining our questioning skills which results in a drop in the quality of the questions we do ask. The true result? We stop getting quality answers.
The Quality of our Answers is Driven by the Quality of our QuestionsThe bottom line is this. If you don't have answers in your life... start asking more questions. And I mean MORE! Don't stop. The more questions the better, because at this stage you don't know what the 'right' question is! The more questions you ask, whether of yourself or others, the more answers you will get. The more answers, the more insight and, ultimately, the greater the clarity of your final 'answer', the choice you make.
Choose now to enhance the quality of the choices you make in the upcoming year by asking more and better questions.
“Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” — Anthony RobbinsDon't filter your life by filtering your questions. Likely the very questions you are afraid to ask are those that contain the answers that you need. Make this upcoming year one in which you truly embrace the Art of Asking Questions, starting with yourself. If you refuse to ask yourself the tough questions, you might want to start with the following question...
Why? What am I afraid of uncovering/discovering by avoiding asking that?
A good question to use when trying to determine why we're afraid of asking questions! A child's favourite question - Why? Make it yours. Simple, yet effective, it can help you to uncover your barriers, challenge your beliefs, question the seemingly obvious and uncover the non-so-obvious truths. When you feel resistance, your fallback question should always be 'Why'.
Make this upcoming year one in which you embrace the Art and Practice of Questioning. More answers lead to better choices, which lead to greater growth. The life you want starts with a question. Are you ready to ask yours?