moments in our lives don't stand out and remain indistinguishable from those that preceded it, or even from those that follow.
There are 'those' moments we experience though, that are memorable. Moments that stand out in our minds, our memories and our hearts. When we string these moments together, the moments that 'matter', we begin to shape and define our lives. These are the moments that give meaning to the life we are living and that influence the choices we will make for the life we will live in the future. Our perspective on what matters therefore, is critical in giving definition to how we view our lives and how we continue to live them.
As much as we typically assume that our memory is nothing but a direct recall of events as they were, it is important to recognise that our memory is driven by our choices. Our memory of an event is shaped by 'How' we choose to remember an event and even by 'What' we choose to remember about it. Our interpretation of an event then serves to influence the way we view it and, ultimately, how we remember it...
- as good or bad
- in joy or sorrow
- in pride or shame
- as loss or gain
- in anger or forgiveness
- as experience or failure
It is our choice that shapes the moments we preserve and that, in turn, shape the story of our lives.
If you don't like the story you are telling then choose different moments. Many of us have inadvertently allowed others to select our moments for us, giving a shape to our stories that doesn't serve us and that we do not want to be defined by. If so, then it is time to invest in ourselves and spend the time in redefining our lives, by restringing our moments.
Take mental scissors to your string of moments, cutting away those moments that don't serve the 'you' that you know yourself to be, the you that you want to be. Invest the time to recall moments that support this desired view, moments that are empowering, pride-filled and heart-felt. Choose moments of joy and triumph, moments of love and giving, but also moments of challenge and adversity, sorrow and loss.
We learn much about ourselves through how we are tested. Choose moments in which you dealt with your loss, overcame adversity, pushed further that you thought possible or pulled yourself back up out of despair. These too are moments to be remembered and treasured.
String together moments that define the true you, your humour, your strength, your passion, your honour, your sensitivity, your courage, your vulnerability, your tenderness, your openness, your creativity, your curiosity, your weaknesses, your humanity. String together moments that tell the story of you and wear these moments with pride.
Our lives are a series of moments, strung together. Choose the moments that matter to you, to define a life that matters... to you.